Thursday, February 28, 2013

Why Marriage


 by Dena Acolatse

Because to the depths of me, I long to love one person,
With all my heart, my soul, my mind, my body...


Because I need a forever friend to trust with the intimacies of me,
Who won't hold them against me,
Who loves me when I'm unlikable,
Who sees the small child in me, and
Who looks for the divine potential of me...


Because I need to cuddle in the warmth of the night
With someone who thanks God for me,
With someone I feel blessed to hold...


Because marriage means opportunity
To grow in love in friendship...


Because marriage is a discipline
To be added to a list of achievements...


Because marriages do not fail, people fail
When they enter into marriage
Expecting another to make them whole...


Because, knowing this,
I promise myself to take full responsibility
For my spiritual, mental and physical wholeness
I create me,
I take half of the responsibility for my marriage
Together we create our marriage...


Because with this understanding
The possibilities are limitless.


Believing



My Oberon

My Fairy King

Natures Gift

Pure Magic you Bring

The last voice I hear

The last kiss I take

Into your arms

Where I awake

 

As I will forever
Autumn 2010

Marilyn Monroe Quotes




 “I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”


“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”

 “Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”

“A wise girl kisses but doesn't love, listens but doesn't believe, and leaves before she is left.”
 

“I am good, but not an angel. I do sin, but I am not the devil. I am just a small girl in a big world trying to find someone to love.”

“This life is what you make it. No matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. And baby, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up because if you give up, you'll never find your soul mate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.”
 

“If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything.”

“The real lover is the man who can thrill you by kissing your forehead or smiling into your eyes or just staring into space.”

“If you're gonna be two-faced at least make one of them pretty.”

“It's better to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone.”

“Ever notice how 'What the hell' is always the right answer?”

“When it comes down to it, I let them think what they want. If they care enough to bother with what I do, then I'm already better than them.”

“Give a girl the right shoes, and she can conquer the world.”

“We should all start to live before we get too old. Fear is stupid. So are regrets.”

“I've never fooled anyone. I've let people fool themselves. They didn't bother to find out who and what I was. Instead they would invent a character for me. I wouldn't argue with them. They were obviously loving somebody I wasn't.”

“She was a girl who knew how to be happy even when she was sad. And that’s important—you know ”

 
“Beneath the makeup and behind the smile I am just a girl who wishes for the world.”

“I don't mind living in a man's world, as long as I can be a woman in it.”

“All little girls should be told they are pretty, even if they aren't.”

“The nicest thing for me is sleep, then at least I can dream.”

“Who said nights were for sleep?”

 
“It's not true that I had nothing on. I had the radio on.”

 
“Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition.”

“You believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself.”

“We are all of us stars, and we deserve to twinkle.”

“It's often just enough to be with someone. I don't need to touch them. Not even talk. A feeling passes between you both. You're not alone.”

“If I'd observed all the rules I'd never have got anywhere.”

“I want to grow old without facelifts. I want to have the courage to be loyal to the face I have made.”
“Success makes so many people hate you. I wish it wasn't that way. It would be wonderful to enjoy success without seeing envy in the eyes of those around you.”

“Dogs never bite me. Just humans.”

“I don't know who invented high heels, but all women owe him a lot!”

“I don't mind making jokes, but I don't want to look like one.”

“Sex is part of nature. I go along with nature.”

“Keep smiling, because life is a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.”

“I don't want to make money, I just want to be wonderful.”

“You never know what life is like, until you have lived it.”

“I restore myself when I'm alone.”

“Sometimes things fall apart so that better things can fall together”

“It's all make believe, isn't it?”

“The body is meant to be seen, not all covered up.”

“We are all born sexual creatures, thank God, but it's a pity so many people despise and crush this natural gift.”

 
“All a girl really wants is for one guy to prove to her that they are not all the same.”

“I don't mind being burdened with being glamorous and sexual. Beauty and femininity are ageless and can't be contrived, and glamour, although the manufacturers won't like this, cannot be manufactured. Not real glamour; it's based on femininity.”

“I'm very definitely a woman and I enjoy it. ”

“I have feelings too. I am still human. All I want is to be loved, for myself and for my talent. ”

“Hollywood is a place where they'll pay you a thousand dollars for a kiss and fifty cents for your soul. I know, because I turned down the first offer often enough and held out for the fifty cents.”

“I'm pretty, but I'm not beautiful.
I'm sin, but I'm not the devil.
I'm good, but I'm not an angel.
I am just a small girl in a big world trying to find someone to love.”

“What do I wear in bed? Why, Chanel No. 5, of course”

“If I play a stupid girl and ask a stupid question, I've got to follow it through, what am I supposed to do, look intelligent?”
 
“I used to think as I looked out on the Hollywood night — there must be thousands of girls sitting alone like me, dreaming of becoming a movie star. But I'm not going to worry about them. I'm dreaming the hardest.”

Monday, February 18, 2013

Our Manila Thriller


I am still trying to process our whirlwind trip to the Philippines with Blue Zoo. Andy learned that Blue Zoo had been big in the eighties and the Filipinos could only get bootleg copies of their records. Love Moves in Strangeways was huge! 30 plus years later Andy had been chatting the promoter, Jesse Cambosa and it is all in place.

We were spoiled by Singapore airlines.......beautiful planes, great service, good food...which was just as well as the first leg of our flight was fourteen hours. Our second flight from Singapore to Manila got us to our destination almost 24 hours after we left the house but because of the eight hour time difference it was only early evening.

We we met in true celebrity style by Jesse and his crew....we were given Sampuegeta necklaces and escorted through the diplomatic channels at customs in to a convoy of cars with darkened windows and body guards. This was to be the mode of travel for the entire trip!!

Manila traffic was insane and we were notably captivated by the jeepneys ferrying the busy Filipinos through their lives......after a quick freshen up at the hotel we were hurried to a bayside restaurant to a sponsored dinner. We we sat at a long table with a variety of delicacies which included sheep brains, pigs knuckles, pony and baby duckling,  still in the egg......(don't ask). I considered myswlf lucky to manageda few mouthfuls of rice!!!!!  While Andy and the gang exhibited their manners by actually eating some of this 'food' there were Blue Zoo videos being played on a large screen....most surreal.

 
The second day gave us a late start which looked me some time to fill up on toast and coffee before we went to the Hard Rock for a look at the show venue and then have a series of  radio interviews and lunch. We spotted some nice shops and when we decided to have a look we again, had to go with a bodyguard....this stuff can go to your head pretty quickly with crowds of people staring!!


Protected in our armed cars I was astounded by the mass of traffic, cars, jeepneys, bikes, tuk tuks and people all jockeying for position and somehow managing to avoid accidents. It was an explosion of life. Small children coming up to stare in the cars, dogs walking along without a care in the world.....the harsh reality of life was right in our faces.
 
That evening was again down at the bay but in a more rustic restaurant which was a little scary. Lots of girls for sale and food which was completely unidentifiable..... I determined I would have to save myself for toast in the morning AGAIN.
 
This was followed by a visit the TV station for yet another interview which was followed by a swank Korean club. Similar to a Japanese Kareem's bar we were given bottles of vodka and Chivas Regal. I was having a lbast and pleased to see there was a nice  dancefloor until the lights went down and a series to scantily clad girls came out and did an erotic stint .......most uncomfortable!! I got completely hammered.

The next day again started slowly and was really about preparing for the evenings gig. Andy and I managed to go for a sight seeing drive through Manila to get a better feel for life and take some photos. The contrast between wealth and poverty was astounding! Of course, everytime we stopped to take a photo the bodyguard had to come too so after a while it became to tedious to continue....stardom is not all the it is cracked up to be but here is our contribution of snaps.
 
 
 
 
 



 
 
Once back a the Hard Rock the sound checks went well and again, Andy had to accommodate interviews. By evening everyone was ready to get the show done and it did not disappoint...best one to date. Quality of sound, performance and venue gave the band a stellar response and a mob at the meet and greet. Wow, Andy is a star!
 
The next day we we whisked away to the escort in the foot hills of Rizal and got a birds eye view of life on the outskirts of Manila. Lives conducted out of small concrete buildings and shacks, all on top of each other being shadowed by skinny cats and dogs anxious to get a quick snack.....cockerels......yet, everyone just got on with their life and I realized there are mo people in the world living like this that our way of life...lowing we have a roof ever our head, food, clothing.....yet, they are probably happier than many westerners obsessed with competition, accumulating wealth, their weight and overall appearance....yes, I am certainly guilty of that too.
 
 
The resort was lovely and surrounded by armed guards. The infinity pool looked over a perfect golf course and the bay....it also had a menu which made my heart leap with joy....chicken sandwiches, burgers....yeah!! The resort also had a casino where Blue Zoo were playing and several hours later they played on a raised stage to people hidden behind fruit machines, stressed black jack players and groups of fans that had traveled from miles away to see their idols. Very bizarre experience!
 
The gigs done we then had three days to enjoy the resort which was relatively quiet due to Chinese New Year.
Andy and I had lots of time by the pool and manged an outing to the nearby Antipollo which had the most beautiful church which attracted pilgrims from all over the Phillpines, We met a woman whose husband's health had deteriated under traditional medicine and he had turned to faith instead and was spending days praying in the church....very moving listening to her talk. The Filipino people are beautiful, kind and resilient. The energy and faith of the people could not fail to touch and Mickey, Andy and I lit a candle to those who were no longer with us,
 



 
And then in no time we were being dropped back off at the airport for the journey home. Another 24 hours later sitting in our living room wondering why there was no-one waiting on us hand and foot and wondering how I would go food shopping without an armed guard....ahh life......